It’s not that you don’t know how to get where you’re going; the problem is you don’t know how to leave where you are. When people think about change, they tend to focus on what they want, and rarely get it. They get stuck where they are because they haven’t taken inventory of where they are. They can’t leave because they don’t know where the exits are.

Transitioning into an empowered state of being is crucial for personal growth. However, this journey can only begin with your willingness to exit your current state. Clinging and defining yourself by the comfort you found yesterday will imprison you. You must exit from your imprisoned mind that is constantly reminding you of your past or warning you about your future. You can only create your desired life by exiting from your old patterns. 

You must exit spaces that disempower you. Sometimes, those spaces, such as jobs, religious practices, relationships, or social media, are easily identifiable. The toxicity of physical spaces is often clearly seen as a source of disempowerment. You know what is said or done that doesn’t align with your spirit, vision, or beliefs. You recognize the lack of support or intentional attempts to harm. However, the psychological spaces you occupy are much more difficult to pinpoint. You confuse familiarity with safety and comfort with character. Self-love turns into complacency. 

Psychological states of disempowerment are more difficult to shift because we are blind to them. Our fast-paced world is not set up for deep self-reflection. This book is a mirror for you to examine your inner state of being. Open you to curiosity about what is going on inside your head. Understand what is driving your behaviors and triggering your emotions. 

Self-examination is the key to a profound psychological shift from where you are to where you want to be. Be here, now. Study where you are so that you don’t return there when the journey feels discouraging. There is a heavy cost to being where you are currently. You are not getting all that you want out of life. You are giving more than you are getting. You feel insignificant, unworthy, not enough, isolated, or stuck in your head. I know you are in a hurry to figure out what is wrong and fix it. But I’m asking you to slow down and learn the space where you are instead of fighting to be somewhere else.   

Imagine the comprehensiveness of a physical relocation. When you move from one house or apartment to another, you start with a mental assessment of what needs to be done. Your focus is not on the new place but on where you are in the current space. You begin to imagine how long you have been in that space and all you have accumulated over the years. You start contemplating what you must let go because it won’t fit in the new space. Your new space is an upgrade, and you want it to represent where you are now, not where you were when you chose your last space.

Planning your exit from where you are is the primary responsibility. Leaving, not arriving, is where your energy goes. You know that when you get to the new place, you will figure out where everything goes and how to exist there. The farther you move from where you are, the more involved the exit. Moving out of state requires hiring a moving company, changing medical facilities, and finding new schools for children. Transitioning requires a disconnect from routine and familiarity. You can’t just take all your stuff, put it in the new house, and continue exactly as before. You must commit to an exit process. The post office offers a free change of address kit. It includes a list of tasks to transition from one location to another seamlessly. For example, the list will remind you to stop all your paid services for home maintenance, such as landscaping and house cleaning. The kit is an extensive list you always wish you had gotten sooner because you forgot to transfer your car insurance, update your address at the bank, and request your child’s school records. 

Seven Exits is similar to the post office’s change of address kit. The chapters ahead are a checklist to guide you through transitioning from where you are to where you want to be. Residing in a comfort zone may offer short-term security but often leads to long-term dissatisfaction. Exiting where you are doesn’t necessarily mean abandoning everything familiar. It can mean making small, strategic changes that align more closely with your desired path. This book is not a roadmap, no more than the post office’s pamphlet tells you how to get to your new home. Instead, each chapter challenges you to exit from the familiar to understand and recalibrate your inner workings. Specifically, you must exit seven realms of unconsciousness to get to inner peace and empowerment.